The stone has yet to make its appearance. Mike has been suffering for 3 days, the 1st one he passed the day all this started. This one, is hanging around. It was on a cat scan last night about 2 to 3 ml which is considered small. However, I have decided maybe we should name the sucker. Mike has to(sorry tmi) pee in a strainer trying to catch the dumb thing. Now who would have ever thought you had to do that. Not only is he in pain he has to watch for the stone. Hence, I think we should name the stone once it is "born". LOL. He has to take it to be analyzed. Poor guy is in agony. He was breathing like he was going through labor. I told him that contrary to popular belief according to my own personal experience, breathing does NOT work. It has been a while since he took pain meds. Don't know what he is trying to prove but I went and got him a pill and said TAKE IT. Men are horrid when they are sick or in pain. We women go through labor, child birth and/or c sections with much more grace then men go through pain. I KNOW he is in REAL pain, I realize that, but it makes me understand that in reality women are the stronger ones. We endure pain and keep caring for our families. When I was in hard labor with Jennifer, I still fixed the children's lunch, changed Hannah's diaper, and helped them with regular things. Even did some laundry while dh puttered around oblivious.....LOL. I am not upset by it, I actually find it humorus that men and women are so much different. I admire my husband for putting up with the pain and so far he has only been cranky a little bit. I am proud of him for that. Usually he bites when he is hurting, well not literally but with words. So I wonder what should we name the stone, when it finally makes its arrival? Should we have an arrival party? LOL LOL LOL
Apparently they hurt worse than 28 hours of labor I had with Christopher. Poor dh had to be taken to ER tonight with kidney stones. He is there now. I had to leave and bring the children home to feed them. He was in agony. Funny thing is I had hard, painful labor and didn't act the way he is, so I guess they hurt worse. They were giving him pain medicine as I left. I called a little bit ago and he was feeling NOOOOOOOOO pain. LOL. I am headed back in a bit to pick him up. But the kids were getting antsy in the room.
I wish he didnt have to suffer with kidney stones but it is a side effect of not having a thyroid and having to take so much calcium due to not having a thyroid. You really do hate it when pain puts your husband on the floor! I will post an update later.
(Her birthday letter)
Dear Jennifer:
My darling baby, you are precious and a wonder to behold. Can it really be that you are 1 year old. Seems like just yesterday I woke up in labor and tried to convince the doctor to let me come in and have the scheduled c section. You were "scheduled" to be born 2 days later. But, even then you had your own ideas and stuck to your own plans. You never did things by the "book", even in utero. You weren't supposed to be able to do sommersaults, flips and all those twists and turns inside mommy with her that far along. But......you didnt read the book. The night before mommy went into labor you did a HUGE sommersault in mommy's tummy. Unknown to us at that time you ended up getting your cord wrapped around your neck but good. (which is probably why you decided to kick start labor). Obviously you did not like it. I labored most of the day and finally in the afternoon around 4 or 5 pm, my water broke. Fear hit mommy like a ton of bricks cause the fluid was not clear. It meant that you were probably in distress. I called Daddy who was at the airport picking up your grandparents and then I called the doctor who said to come in. So I called a friend and she took me to the hospital. They hooked me up to a monitor and your heart rate was stable. Praise God. They took me in for my c section and I waited for your cry. They told me they would not let you cry right away because they wanted to make sure you didnt breathe in the fluid. So they suctioned you and then let you cry. The most wonderful sound in the world. I cried, daddy cried and you arrived safe and sound. For a few days you had a bit of trouble keeping your heart rate and breathing steady, but people prayed. You were about to be put in the NICU and we called everyone. The doctor came in and said, "she has not been doing well with her heart rate and breathing and we were going to do this and this, and SUDDENLY". Well, my dear do you know what and suddenly means......it means God performed a miracle and your breathing and heart rate suddenly stablized. We were thrilled. We brought you home and you filled our lives. You completed our family. Christopher and Hannah were thrilled with you and would watch you in amazement. This year has been filled with many things. We moved from L. to LP and you lived in two different places in your first year of life. You have done everything early and on your own schedule. You are easygoing and happy for the most part. You are very loving. You will walk up to mommy and lay your head on my leg and rub my leg with your hand, just loving and being close. You can say "I wu oo" (I love you). You have several words but you dont talk a lot like you used to. You are too busy walking, exploring and climbing. But when you need to you will use them. You are a joy. An utter joy. Your brother and sister adore you. Hannah gets a bit jealous sometimes but so do you. You will push them away if they are loving on mommy and we are having to teach you to share. You will eat anything that doesn't eat you first. Christopher is beyond picky, Hannah really only likes veggies and some meats, but YOU will eat anything! You love food. You are petite and sweet. People say you are smart and quick. The nursery worker at church adores you and thinks you are the smartest baby she has ever seen. I tend to agree, LOL. Jennifer you are our last little baby and it amazes me just how quick you are growing up. I treasure you because you are you and you have so many things that are yours alone. Each of you children are unique and special. Never forget my little Jenn Jenn, God made you special. He planned you to be in our lives and we are better because you graced us with your presence. Your big blue eyes hold wonder and innocence and beauty. Your laugh is like a melody. Your cry, well it is full of drama and will break anyone's heart in a million pieces and make them want to "fix" whatever happens to be the trouble. My darling daughter I am so greatful for you, your life, your sweetness, your joy and even your naughtiness. Cause you can be so full of mischief. I love you Jennifer Grace. You are precious.
Love Mommy
That we are leaving. I am going to tell my friend here, who happens to be the pastor's daughter today. So it is NOT a shock. We are telling everyone that God is moving us on, which is true. Pastor is not going into details just saying God has us here for 7 months and in His perfect plan it is time for us to move on. I will probably be crying a LOT on Sunday. First, the huge change and 2nd it is Jennifer's birthday and it is quite a lot going on.
We told Christopher that we are moving. He is devastated! CRIED CRIED CRIED, nearly broke my heart in two. But he is resilent. He looks so sad. Sigh......as hard as it is on us, it is hard to watch your child grieve. No way Hannah can understand, she will be excited we are moving near Nanny and Aunt Theresa. LOL.
My heart is heavy because of all the changes and the unexpected timing. But God is faithful and I know everything will be all right.
What I did today:
1. I was talking with him about something and did not agree, instead of getting mad or starting to explain "my view", I listened, heard him out and remained calm. I still did not agree but we were able to discuss it with complete respect and honor.
2. He has been asking me to make chocolate chip cookies and I let things with the children and house get in the way. I made the cookies despite how busy I was. It made him smile.
3. I gave him a card that said I was praying for him through all these trials we are facing.
4. I prayed for him specifically and only him.
5. I thanked him for helping me with some household chores and didnt complain that it wasn't finished.
I love my husband. He is a hard worker and a gread dad. He doesn't mind changing diapers are cleaning up a messy food covered baby.
