Saturday, October 29, 2011
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
I woke up today and realized I haven't done Christopher's 11th birthday letter. I try to write a letter or something each year on their birthdays. I have missed one here or there depending on what was going on at the time. But I do try.
When Christopher was born, I knew how to change a baby, feed a baby and the basics. I had heard about sleep deprivation and colic but never experienced it. When he was in the hospital with me just after his birth. Everything was easy and smooth sailing. Well, until we brought him home. Then the crying began. We did not know at the time his crying was due to undiagnosed milk allergy. So at 3 a.m., my husband after a frantic call to the pediatrician, due to an newborn who had cried hours and hours and hours, went on a search for gas drops. First, he had to find something open and second...a store that actually carried the magic elixir..GAS DROPS. It helped some, but truthfully not a lot. It took a full year for him to be diagnosed and when we took him off all dairy......our baby..stopped crying like turning off a switch. He had cried after every, feeding and every meal for a solid year.
Doctors, would not listen, and we prayed and we cried and we searched for answers. Christopher was a happy, laid back little guy, when he wasn't in pain. We named his tummy troubles "the tummy tigers". This still has effects in him today. He learned that first year that food caused pain and because of it, eating, has never really been a big thing for him. He is better now, but even after 11 years his eating is an issue as his sensory issues; I believe, in part, were caused by all that pain he experienced.
However, this leads me to Christopher's letter:
When God blessed us with you, He gave us a warrior. A warrior full of joy and laughter. A warrior that has perseverance and faith so deep it astounds me. All those times you saw Jesus and Mercy (your "imaginary friend") by your bed when you were so sick, instilled something in you. Your faith is the foundation you need for life. No matter what you face, that faith, your Lord Jesus will be WHO gets you through anything. There is nothing you can't face. There is nothing, through the strength of Jesus you can't do . Nothing is impossible with God. You have proven that in your life and walk with Jesus over and over again. I am proud of you positive outlook on life. I am proud that you have compassion and love for others.
Your character is strong and mighty and it shines for the world to see. Keep Jesus as your center and you will find that people are drawn to you. You have grown so much this year, both physically and spiritually. Watching God grow you in faith is better than anything you could ever do, say or be. Watching you become a young man that loves the Lord Jesus is better than winning a million bucks. Thank you for being you.
You pray first and ask questions later. That my son, teaches your Mommy every day. Sometimes, you struggle with organization, sorry , you get that from Mommy, but you are trying. You are working hard and have the desire to learn and grow. I thank God, He made you, just like you are. As we learn and grow together, we will meet life head on with Jesus as our source. As your parents, Daddy and I, are learning and growing too. Families, do that......they learn and grow together in love and faith. I pray God will increase your faith and that you will grow in wisdom and stature. We trust God with you and your life and His plans for you future
The scripture I proclaim for you this year is
New International Version (NIV)
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Love Mommy..aka Mom as I don't know how much longer the Mommy label will stick..LOL
Posted by Thelmama Vlogs at 8:43 AM
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
I was watching the Today show this morning and they were talking about "mean girls". They were discussing whether reality TV, kids show, etc were the cause of girls being so mean to one another these days.
I don't think it can be blamed, entirely, on television or reality TV. My girls have on occasion been mean to one another. However, we correct it immediately. We explain WHY it is wrong and how it makes the other one feel. Compassion doesn't all come naturally, some of it, is taught.
When a young child, hits another child to be mean, you teach them. You teach them that it hurts and you have consequences for such behavior. If a parent excuses their child, every time he or she does something wrong, they learn that behavior is wrong. If you excuse a girl for being mean saying "that's just girls being girls"..you teach them it is okay.
Discipline and teaching kids to be kind and compassionate comes through many lessons. They watch us and how we treat others. They do things and crave discipline. Yes, I said crave discipline. Children need discipline. They want some one to care enough to correct them when they are wrong.
I am not talking abuse. I am talking about correction and teaching. Discipline is teaching not just consequences.
Am I perfect mother, NOPE! Haven't earned that distinction yet. I don't think I will be earning it any time soon, because I too am learning. The Lord teaches me and disciplines me through His word.
Sometimes, He uses a simple statement, made innocently by my child that is like a good wake up and do right message from the Father Himself. My children don't even know they just preached to Mommy.
So mean girls being the fault of TV? No, not entirely. Yes, it has some influence, but we also have to take responsibility for our kids behavior and what we are teaching them.
Yes, sometimes, there are kids, that despite what they are taught, act out and become "mean girls", due to no fault of the parents. However, I do not think this is because of TV. I think it is a culture thing. It is cool these days to show...just how "bad" you are...the badder the better.
If we as a culture did not buy into the dress...well lack there of dress or the hype for "bad girl" behavior, it would not thrive.
If we rewarded good behavior and highlighted, positive things so many teens and kids do, we would see a change. Kids would think it was cool to be good. MOST of the pressure to be bad comes from peer pressure. Is that influenced by TV, probably. However we can not blame it on TV.
Many families are so plugged into technology they are tuned out on their kids.
Lord, help me be tuned into YOU so I can be tuned into my kids. Help me prioritize my time, my family, my day so that my girls and my son can be...compassionate, loving members of society. People who shine brightly in a world where being mean is cool. Let them show that kindness and love is the way to live. Let us live the way YOU would Lord......where we live by loving those who society says is unlovable. Let us never ever cast stones and let us shine brightly for you.
Posted by Thelmama Vlogs at 7:39 AM